Who's absolutely right? Well, both. It's just a matter of perspective. What we think about thoughts and intentions of someone else is far more important than what someone else is actually thinking. So it's almost impossible to understand someone, if we try to do it by giving to another person our own thoughts, intentions and fears. Men and women do that quite often, by trying to 'decode' strange signals that, instead of coming from another planet, are just coming from another person of the opposite sex.
A couple of days ago I receveid a funny story, posted on Worldstart.com, from someone absolutely sure that men are so simple:
Once upon a time, a genie appeared to a man, and offered him one wish.
'Well,' said the man, 'I've always wanted to go to Fiji, but plane tickets are so expensive, and boats are so slow. Can you build a bridge from Los Angeles to Fiji?'
'I'm sorry,' the genie said. 'You're pretty much asking for the impossible. That's six thousand miles of bridge. Plus, you'll need fuel stations and motels on the way. I'm sorry, but you're going to have to ask for something else?'
'Oh,' said the disappointed man. 'Well, can you grant me the ability to understand women?'
The genie cleared his throat. 'How many lanes did you want on that bridge?'
As I read it, I laughed out loud and I immediately thought of The Truman Show and how badly Truman Burbank want to go to Fiji. He's not alone, after all.
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