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I am a localization manager/translator and intercultural consultant living in Berlin (Germany), passionate about languages, cultures, diversity management, dancing and good movies.  

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Monday, October 8, 2012

I know what I am missing, or How to use your emotional intelligence while talking to others

It always starts like this, no matter in which language:

"You don't know what you are missing!" (English)
"Du hast keine Ahnung, was Du verpasst!" (German)
"Non sai cosa ti perdi!" (Italian)

While living Vegan since over four years, I am used to hear something like that on a regular basis.
Most people think that this should sound inviting to me, or that they should look smart or funny by saying that.
In my humble opinion, they ARE missing something: I live Vegan because I want to and I do know what I am missing. And I am missing it, because I do want to miss it.
In a very subtile way, they are questioning one choice of mine, even if I am not saying anything about their choices.

What's the point here?
A very simple one: something that for a person can sound encouraging, interesting or useful, can be actually offensive for someone else.
Before saying something personal, think about how what are you going to say could resonate to the other person.

You would enjoy if someone would do it for you, or not?

Tags: Veganism, Emotional intelligence, Human interaction