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Monday, August 21, 2023

Coaching Monday: What gift-receiving says about you

How we deal with gift-giving says a lot about us, our worldview, our generosity, our idea of reciprocity. 

It's not a mere coincidence, then, that gift-giving is one of the five love languages theorized by Gary Chapman in the book 'The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate' (1992), together with words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, and physical touch.

Weekly question from life coach Azzurra Camoglio: "What's your typical reaction when receiving a present?"
[What goes through your mind 
while receiving a present?
Are you happy? Thankful? Annoyed? Embarrassed?]

Still, I genuinely believe that how we deal with gift-receiving is just as important and revealing. How we react, what we think and do, and how we thank the person giving us a gift (if at all, and while truly meaning it) says a lot about us, our self-worth, our way of building and nurturing relationships, our ability (or incapacity) to feel gratitude, and sometimes also about our sense of entitlement.

"What's your typical reaction when receiving a present?"

                                                    
Tags: Coaching question, Self-coaching, Self-awareness, Self-reflection, Five love languages, Gift-receiving, Gratitude

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