It doesn't matter if one decides to believe in religion, rationality at any cost, pixie dust, ethics, Murphy's law, tolerance, happy endings, science, unicorns, morality, magic, logic, the good intentions of all human beings, music, the laws of attraction, karma, the three main concepts of the French Revolution, the power of now, serendipity or just in oneself.
One should believe in something. Totally got it.
But what if one should not be able to believe any longer?
I guess that each person on this planet (and maybe in other planets too, we can't be sure about this one... okay, I am just kidding) has been there, one time or another.
And this is absolutely normal, comprehensible and even healthy, in some measure. It is a protection mechanism, like the ones known from computer science, and it is definitely useful, once in a while.
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted.
At the same time, life is a matter of experience, perception and perspective.
Most of the time, someone's life and experiences are not the result of what happened to them, but of how that person would perceive what happened and how she will then think, feel, act and react on the situation and over time, depending on her beliefs, her values and her perception of the situation itself. Depending on how she will handle a similar situation in the future, how she consider natural to behave in the present and which lessons she learned from the past.
Like in a good movie, it's not the what that counts, but the how.
Being resilient enough, being strong even in terrible moments, being able to believe is really hard sometimes, I know. And it can suck too. It can be scary, difficult, tricky, painful.
And yet, if life is a matter of perspective and what we decide to believe in will influence the quality of our life and our experiences, how about deciding consciously what one wants to believe in?
Crash David has his own beliefs system, apparently. How about us?
How about deciding to believe that, from now on:
- there is nothing wrong with how we are and we can be authentic, true to ourselves and in peace, no matter what and no matter what others expect us to be;
- the past is gone and the future doesn't exist yet and it is going to be shaped by the decisions that we take today;
- every day is precious and our time should be shared with people who care and can appreciate it as the most valuable gift we could ever give to them;
- in relationships it is not all about getting something but way more about giving something first;
- other people should leave an interaction with us while being more happy and more enriched than they were before talking to us;
- life is short and spending it in embitterment, grudge, jealousy and resentment is a huge waste;
- we have to take responsibility for our own feelings, thoughts, actions and reactions and therefore to live in a way that will make us proud of ourselves...
How do you feel, while reading these lines and imagining how your life would be, if you would start immediately to believe that and to live accordingly to this new beliefs system?
How about creating your own system, with what matters to you the most?
How about giving yourself credit for it and being proud of it every day?
I would love to hear from you about this.
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