It doesn't matter how badly you would love to be kissed by someone. Most of the times, to merely want to be kissed by that someone is just not enough to get what you want. Most of the times you will have to do something or be something for getting there.
[A not at all easily obtained kiss: the famous love scene
between Spider-Man (Tobey Maguire)
and Mary Jane Watson (Kirsten Dunst)
in Spider-Man (2002) by Sam Raimi]
Easily obtained kisses aren't worth it, an old proverb says.
Ah, wait, let's do it as it has to be done...
Ah, wait, let's do it as it has to be done...
Kisses that are easily obtained are easily forgotten.
English proverb
I guess that the idea behind the proverb is that if it is so easy to get a kiss, most of the times it is because that kiss doesn't mean that much, no strings are attached, no risk and bravery are involved, no commitment (or only very little commitment) is required - like with words vs. facts, do you remember? - and in the end, the kiss doesn't change anything. It could be cheap or even worse absolutely lousy.
And beside of it, you could think that it is just something easy, taken for granted, a no-brainer. Something not worth thinking about it or doing something for it, after all.
It is the time you have wasted for your rose that makes your rose so important.
Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince
Special kisses, on the other hand, are rare, unique, precious and because of it unforgettable. If you are looking for a special kiss, you will have to fight for it or to show that you deserve it, because it is not going to happen by chance.
[Special kisses are magic?!
What if magic is against a kiss? Tinkerbell in Peter Pan (1953)
by Wilfred Jackson, Clyde Geronimi and Hamilton Luske]
I am afraid that it is the same with almost every valuable thing or experience in your life:
- to get good grades in school;
- to graduate with highest honors;
- to pass a very demanding test;
- to find a fulfilling job;
- to rent or buy a beautiful and yet not too expensive apartment (a beautiful and expensive apartment is not that difficult to find...);
- to learn something valuable (a foreign language, how to drive a car, challenging Yoga Asanas, how to cook special recipes, the butterfly stroke, how to use chopsticks... and so on);
- to have wonderful and loyal friends;
- to enjoy a meaningful and most of the time happy relationship with your significant other;
- to organize a trip aloof from tourist tracks;
- to stay healthy;
- to have a sporty, fit and well-proportioned body (or the famous Fight Club's six-pack)...
and the list could go on forever.
[One year after Fight Club by David Fincher,
it's six-pack time once again:
Brad Pitt as Mickey O'Neil in Snatch. (2000) by Guy Ritchie]
You can't just want something and think that, because of it, you are going to get it.
Hard work, time, patience, commitment, effort, sometimes money and for sure sacrifice are your tools of the trade and highs and lows are unfortunately part of the game.
For obtaining something precious and important, you have to go all in for it, because extraordinary results are not easy to obtain, and very often it is necessary to go the extra mile.
Please don't get me wrong: it may for sure happen that sometimes you will get what you want just because you want it. For sure you can bring me a lot of examples about it, but those examples would be the exception to the rule, not the proof that the rule is wrong.
You could tell me that it is enough to be rich or beautiful or both for getting whatever you want, but even if it is sadly true that rich and beautiful people can under specific circumstances 'get a shortcut', in the end, they can't have whatever they want only because of it anyway.
[Beautiful, rich and famous, and yet not even this lady can't have
whatever she wants, just because of it:
US-American Sandra Bullock at Golden Globe Awards (2010)
whatever she wants, just because of it:
US-American Sandra Bullock at Golden Globe Awards (2010)
in a royal Purple strapless gown by Bottega Veneta]
How much frustration can you tolerate? Can you accept a 'no' as an answer? How important is for you to get what you want? Are you ready to work hard for getting there?
It's up to you to keep working hard to go there then, or wherever you will decide to go instead. You can obviously get other things way more easily, but they are usually not as high-value as something that needs to be conquered.
I am pretty sure that you still remember your first kiss or the first kiss you exchanged with your significant other. And I am also sure that you would be able to recollect where you were, what you did and sometimes even what you said exactly before the kiss as if it were yesterday, also years after the fact.
What made that kiss so special to you?
Tags: Kiss, First kiss, Going the extra mile, Fight Club, Six-pack, English proverbs, Sandra Bullock, Quotes, People
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