Who did you want to become, as an adult?
Yep, you heard it right.
And it makes total sense if you think about it.
Wonder Woman aka Diana, Princess of the Amazons and daughter of Queen Hippolyta, is strong, intelligent, talented, resilient, gifted, brave, beautiful, generous, sexy, successful and incredibly badass.
Even more so now, while portrayed by an actress like Gal Gadot in the movies Batman v Superman: Dawn of Justice (2016, Zack Snyder), Wonder Woman (2017, by Patty Jenkins: yay! so much looking forward to it, but I digress ^^) and Justice League (2017, Zack Snyder).
That said, "my" Wonder Woman will always be Lynda Carter, because I grew up while watching the classic TV series Wonder Woman (1975-1979) produced by Warner Bros. Television, a must-see during the Eighties and even during the Nineties.
Why? Exactly because I know that I can. And therefore I don't need it any longer.
Not because life became easier all of a sudden.
Knowing which battles one should pick and being able to let go of the rest is such an important skill in life and it should be taught in school. A little bit less algebra and a little bit more emotional intelligence, please!
Most of the time, we fight because we are actually afraid of fighting and of conflict.
We are afraid that, if we don't do it now, the conflict will get worse over time and we will have to fight even more in the future. We get into the fight because of our thoughts about a situation, not because of the situation itself. We fight because of our perception, our ideas, our expectations, our biases, our past. Most of the time, the fight is not real, and the conflict is not real either.
Not scared of fighting, but scared of letting go. Scared of looking inside of ourselves and acknowledging our thoughts, our fears, our dark sides.
Conflict is the source of energy. The real problem is the casualties caused by misusing that energy - by failing to channel it into something productive.
As Nate Regier says, conflict is not bad per se. It can become poisonous and dangerous if we let it. Otherwise, conflict is just energy that can be canalized and used for good things, like discovering a new perspective on a situation thanks to someone else, growing together with your interlocutor, having an authentic exchange of views.
Just imagine an impetuous river: its waters can create or destroy. It's just a matter of how they are going to be used.
be water. Yep, water, my friend!
We can decide to see conflict as a chance to transform a not so pleasant situation into something useful and empowering we can learn a lot from while keeping calm and gaining perspective.
We can acknowledge our fears and our emotions before letting a situation escalate and go south.
We can decide that we could fight, but we will not. Not in a destructive way, at least. Not for putting ourselves and other people down.
Some days are good and we are all in and able to do it, some days not so much, but it's always worth a try.
And Wonder Woman? You may ask.
She is still very cool and still a role model for me. But now I prefer her when she is just Diana Prince and can show her vulnerability, at the right moment.
Tags: Wonder Woman, Role models, Being a warrior, Nonviolent communication, Conflict, Quotes
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