In the pitch you are using for getting the gig, it is not about you either.
What is all about, then?
I will act as if what I do will make a difference.
It is about the people you are working with, and whether or not, while working with you, they consider you a blessing or a karmic punishment for something that happened a couple of lives ago.
It is about which problem you are going to solve and how fast and with how much value if you get the gig.
It’s lovely loving, isn’t it? In fact, I find it almost better, because being loved sometimes embarrasses me, but loving is a gift.
And I am sure you are.
That said, let's be honest for a minute.
Wants and needs are not the same, even if we like to tend that they are.
Every human interaction is somehow a form of exchange and in every culture, in every society and in every time period reciprocity, sense of community and belonging have played and still play a very important role in order to keep people (and social systems as we know them) together.
Reciprocity, as the "art" of giving and receiving, can be direct or indirect and it can come in many shapes and forms: time, affection, attention, gifts, help, knowledge. Now, later, in the future. Once, twice, on a regular basis. And so on.
No big surprises here.
As already said, it is not about you. Or at least, not completely.
What are you willing to give, in exchange for what you want and which kind of impact do you want to have in other people's life?
What are YOU bringing to the table at your job, as a job candidate, as a professional for a gig, as a date, as a friend or acquaintance or whatever you like to call it?
(Also, I have noticed that partners and children who are spontaneously given wonderful things and told, “This is because we’re celebrating!” tend to be a lot more supportive in the future. Just saying.)
11. Donate – time or money. This is one of my favorite ways to celebrate, because there is huge symbolism in this. If you celebrate by giving of yourself to those in greater need, you reinforce to your subconscious that you do not lack. This is huger than huge.
How are you planning to add value at some point in the system you are part of?
What can you offer in the human interactions that happen in your life day by day?
It will serve you better and the people around you will be thankful for your honesty.
Tags: Reciprocity, Human interactions, Giving and Receiving, Value, Quotes
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