Short and sweet motivational questions for your self-care #3. That shiny someone from somewhere

How are you doing, in comparison to [put some fancy name here]?

In comparison to that influencer on YouTube?

In comparison to that famous fitness guru?

In comparison to that person that lives the life of your dreams?

(let's call them "that shiny someone from somewhere", shall we?)

If you are like most people, questions like these will usually make you feel unhappy, inadequate, not successful enough, not beautiful enough, not fancy enough, not rich enough, not hipster enough.

But what if I would ask you "How are you doing, in comparison to a younger version of yourself?" instead?

In comparison to a younger version of yourself from one year ago? 

Three years ago? Five years ago? Seven years ago?
In comparison to a "freshman" version of yourself from ten years ago?

Now are the good old times we are longing for in ten years.

Sir Peter Alexander Ustinov, 
better known as Peter Ustinov [1921-2004]

[How many of these back then young, aspiring actors,

now Hollywood stars and sometimes cultural icons,

are you able to recognize on the spot?]

What if you would meet your cute, inexperienced (and frankly clueless) 19-year-old self, like in the popular novel The Glitch by Elisabeth Cohen?

The good thing about the world is that it’s big enough that someone will always give you something to strive toward, to force you to stretch and be better. And the shitty thing about the world is that if you always do that — if you always define success by comparing yourself to others instead of comparing yourself to where you used to be and where you’d like to be — there’s always a ton reasons to feel like a big, fat loser. Like, all the time.

Johnny B. Truant, We’re all inferior (or maybe none of us are)

How much did you achieve in the last three years that you would never have considered thinkable, three to four years ago?

Which kind of energy, enthusiasm, and motivation can a question like this give you?

If you still want to feel miserable while comparing yourself to that shiny someone from somewhere, go for it.
Thing is, it would be more inspiring to use your desire to aspire to the same "greatness" (whatever the word means for you) of that shiny someone and use it as a leverage for doing stuff your own way, while giving yourself the necessary time-frame to see valuable results.

Just saying, of course. In the end, it's up to you.

Tags: Comparison with celebrities, Change of perspective, Self-awareness, Quotes, Motivation from within

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