How do you take most of your decisions? Or the one about those famous words that Fritz Lang never said

- What are you going to do now?

- That's a good question. Should I stay or should I go? Actually, I don't know it yet...

- What does your body say?

- That's an even better question. It is clear then... I am going to stay.

The quality of your life is related to the quality of the questions you ask yourself, because they have a big impact on the answers you give yourself, they say.

It always fascinates me how a problem, a dilemma, a doubt can suddenly become pretty easy to solve, as soon as we ask ourselves different questions.

"Better" questions indeed, that put the focus on aspects we usually don't pay that much attention to.

Would have I ever asked myself what my body would say? Ehm... Nope. Not until last week, at least.

The Austrian-German director Fritz Lang [1890-1976] is often quoted as having said: "There can be no understanding between the hand and the brain unless the heart acts as mediator". 

Fancy words, that's for sure, and yet they are just a clever re-phrasing of the last words of his movie Metropolis (Germany 1927), actually written by his then wife, Thea von Harbou, also the author of the novel with the same title the movie is overtly based on.

[Here we are, with the notorious last words 

of Metropolis]

Here, the mileage may vary, depending on how you usually take decisions, but overall, and while using Metropolis' metaphor as a reference, most people can be either defined as:

- "head-driven" (in German "Kopfmensch", aka brain person), while mostly focusing on analytic thinking, for most decisions;

- "heart-driven" (in German "Herzmensch", aka heart person), while mostly focusing on feelings, moods, and emotions, for most decisions;

- "hands-driven" (in German "Bauchmensch" aka guts person), while mostly focusing on the instinct and acting immediately on it, for most decisions.

Interestingly enough, this subdivision also respects Dietmar Friedmann's psychology theory called Psychographie, similar but not exactly the same as Psychographics, that divides people into:

- Beziehungstyp (relation-type, or the heart)
- Sachtyp / Erkenntnistyp (insight-type, or the head)
- Handlungstyp (action-type, or the hands)

The same applies for example to Victor Fleming's The Wizard of Oz, based on L. Frank Baum's books, but that's another story for another post.

[The Wizard of Oz, with its adorably camp red shoes,

is one of the best coaching-themed movies ever...]

For now...
How do you take your own decisions, and which questions do you usually ask yourself?

This one is for Stefanie, that can ask really good questions.

Tags: Asking good questions, Metropolis, Quotes, Psychographie, Taking decisions

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