"It's complicated". Until it's not.
Not because of the circumstances, but because of how you deal with them.
"It's complicated" is the new black.
To be honest, I prefer the old, classy one.
If I would ask you, of course in a non-confrontational way and actually caring about you: "What's your problem?", what would you say?
If you should explain to me how to have the exact same "problem" as you are currently having, how would you phrase it?
[Which door are you going to knock at?
They look pretty similar, and yet they are different...
Which solution are you going for?
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More often than not (1), our "problems" are not real problems. Even more, if we are talking about the so-called "first world problems".
If you don't make a conscious effort to visualize who you are and what you want in life, then you empower other people and circumstances to shape you and your life by default.
Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
What if I would ask you to guess which solution would be a good fit for your problem?
More often than not (2), you would not even need to take a wild guess. You would know exactly which solution could be a good fit for your problem already. And yet you didn't go for it so far and are probably not going for it in the near future as well, which qualifies you for...
A free entry voucher to the club called humankind!
Welcome! Just pick a fruity sugary cocktail and come having fun with all of us.
[Did you grab your fruity cocktail?
Great! Now we can keep talking about your
"problem"]
[Put here the solution to your problem, the one you already know, if you are honest to yourself] is simple, but it is not easy.
If it would be easy, you would be doing it already and not having the "problem" in the first place.
More often than not (3), it's not complicated. It is actually incredibly simple.
What you are saying is that you would prefer it to be easy.
It can be simple too, if you decide it to be. And if you take the consequences into account and ask yourself: "How much does it cost me to choose the easy path instead of the simple one?".
Not only today, not only tomorrow, but in the long run.
I'm pretty sure you know the answer to that question too. Maybe it would help to ask yourself why you don't like the answer (yet).
Just saying, of course.
I'm pretty sure you know the answer to that question too. Maybe it would help to ask yourself why you don't like the answer (yet).
Just saying, of course.
Tags: Problem-solving attitude, Self-awareness, Dealing with problems, Dealing with circumstances, First world problems, Quotes
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