"I told you I'm very busy right now", they say.
"Just like every other human being on this planet, busy with stuff they're after?", I reply.
How many people do you know that say: "I have plenty of time for the activities I want, I'm super relaxed and I can manage my life as I please"?
Besides a couple of lucky exceptions, I bet you don't know that many people that are happy to share with the world how carefree they are and how much time they have to give away just like this.
Besides a couple of lucky exceptions, I bet you don't know that many people that are happy to share with the world how carefree they are and how much time they have to give away just like this.
Most people are apparently extremely busy, overworked, tired, stressed out, with lots to do and even more to catch up with. And this never ends, above all in big cities like Berlin.
[Walking like a zombie, tired, stressed out and just so busy?
Just let professionals do that, like Jenna Dewan and Channing Tatum
cosplaying as Jack and Sally for Halloween]
In my opinion, it is just a sign of poor time management skills and of looking for validation from the outside.
FOMO is the new black, and so many people run all the time from one event to an appointment, from a meeting to another social occasion, while complaining whiningly about being busy, being stressed, being lonely, and yet without being willing to change anything in their life, to take responsibility for their busyness and for addressing the real causes.
FOMO is the new black, and so many people run all the time from one event to an appointment, from a meeting to another social occasion, while complaining whiningly about being busy, being stressed, being lonely, and yet without being willing to change anything in their life, to take responsibility for their busyness and for addressing the real causes.
We are always in transition. If you can just relax with that, you’ll have no problem.
Chogyam Trungpa
[Everything is always in transition.
How are you going to use your time?
Image credit: ISO Republic]
It doesn't matter if you are in a transition.
It doesn't matter if you are completing your PhD.
It doesn't matter if you are relocating, changing diet, switching jobs, redecorating your flat, learning for an exam or getting a divorce.
Expecting life to get less busy and circumstances to be less stressful at some point is an illusion.
You are never going to be less stressed than now, the contrary is probably true. As you grow older, life is going to be more complex and interesting...
And to present you with more options, possible choices, commitments and also expectations from other people about what you are going to do.
A couple of examples? Getting a promotion and more responsibility at work, having a family, educating your children, taking care of aging parents, dealing with health issues, engaging in your local community... And so on.
A couple of examples? Getting a promotion and more responsibility at work, having a family, educating your children, taking care of aging parents, dealing with health issues, engaging in your local community... And so on.
[How about discovering what is really meaningful to you
and learning how you can make the most out of your time
and of your talents? Just like Jack in
The Nightmare Before Christmas. The real one]
The good news? Stress will not go away, but you can learn to stop making excuses and setting priorities that are meaningful to you and will serve you well. You can learn to deal with external stress differently, minimize the stress caused by you and rethink all your busyness.
Life doesn't happen to you, but for you, they say.
How about deciding to stop complaining about how busy you are and going for a proactive change instead?
This one is for Joseph, pleasantly open to learning new things.
Tags: Time management, Busyness, FOMO, Being busy, Prioritizing, Quotes
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