For some of us, asking for help is difficult, as if the mere fact that help has been asked would be a sign of weakness or that we are not cool enough, competent enough, strong enough...
For the same reason, for some people, it is just as difficult to accept help when someone is freely offering it without us asking for it.
Why are they offering me some help? I didn't ask for it!
Do they think that I am not able to manage this myself?!
To be honest, it doesn't really matter what they think.
What matters is whether or not we could use some help, and whether or not a little help could make things easier and more doable for us.
Very few people get this right, and yet accepting help, if it comes from someone that has our best interest in mind, is a sign of strength.
It means being able to practice self-awareness and self-care and to realize when it would be better to let someone give their contribution, in whatever shape or form this will be.
It means being in a good place, where a big ego and cramped perfectionism have no reason to be.
It means, above all, being willing to build a relationship with the people helping us, to build a bridge, to be open for reciprocity and gratitude.
Help, it doesn't matter whether from us or from others, is something worth celebrating.
Coaching question of the day:
"Who is helping you right now?"
For the same reason, for some people, it is just as difficult to accept help when someone is freely offering it without us asking for it.
Why are they offering me some help? I didn't ask for it!
Do they think that I am not able to manage this myself?!
[Friends, colleagues, loved ones, professionals of every kind...
The people helping you are golden and should be celebrated]
To be honest, it doesn't really matter what they think.
What matters is whether or not we could use some help, and whether or not a little help could make things easier and more doable for us.
Very few people get this right, and yet accepting help, if it comes from someone that has our best interest in mind, is a sign of strength.
It means being able to practice self-awareness and self-care and to realize when it would be better to let someone give their contribution, in whatever shape or form this will be.
It means being in a good place, where a big ego and cramped perfectionism have no reason to be.
It means, above all, being willing to build a relationship with the people helping us, to build a bridge, to be open for reciprocity and gratitude.
Help, it doesn't matter whether from us or from others, is something worth celebrating.
Coaching question of the day:
"Who is helping you right now?"
Tags: Coaching question, Self-coaching, Self-awareness, Self-reflection, Accepting help, Reframing about help, Reciprocity
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