while speaking a foreign language
Would one feels comfortable or witty or sexy and attractive, while speaking a language the potential romantic counterpart knows way much better and doing a lot of mistakes or sometimes not being able to get jokes or to explain/tell something in an elegant way?
They are part of bigger families, with other languages related to them while having common roots, or different levels of reciprocity and influences, and connections with further less related languages as well, due to historical events, wars, socio-economic factors and so on.
Flirting in German and getting the right nuance or sexual innuendo style could be easier for expats coming from most English-speaking or Scandinavian countries or from the Netherlands than it could be for expats coming from Greece or Iran, for example.
As you can see in the image above, English, Dutch and most Scandinavian languages are all part of the Germanic language family, just like German, while Greek and Persian are part of other language families.
So in our example about flirting in German, expats coming from Denmark or Belgium could have less doubts than an expat coming from Morocco or Saudi Arabia, just to name two "exotic" countries.
And yet, expecting no differences at all because "we are all European, after all" is the best way to experience a bigger amount of problems, while considering implicit that the other person will always understand what we want, what we think and what we are expecting from him or her.
Flirting is already tricky even without having to fight against linguistic and cultural barriers, right? It could be worth to remember that the other person has maybe other expectations or ideas about how the flirting thing could or should work.
One of my favourite examples is the short German sentence "Mal sehen", that means "We will see".
While flirting it can be used while meaning exactly "No idea right now, we will see", but it can also be used while meaning "I don't want to tell you that clearly, you will discover it. I am teasing you... and you will like it".
How can one know which is the right meaning? A very interesting flirting Russian roulette, indeed.
This one is for Pablo. Thanks for the precious input.
Tags: Singleness, Love, Relationships, Dating, Flirting, Intercultural communication, Foreign language, Learning a language
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