"I will always be there for you, if you need me. Just as a reminder", he says. And I know that he means it, even if we didn't talk to each other for a couple of years.
He is nice. And it is something nice to say, and yet talk is cheap and it is not enough.
From Bon Jovi to the Rembrandts to Brian Adams to about 50% of the Western pop scene of the last fifty years, at some point practically almost everybody wrote at least one fancy song about the topic.
It sounds nice. It feels nice. It looks nice. And yet it is not enough.
[Less talking, 'cause talk is cheap.
Let's walk the talk instead]
Sure, knowing that someone you practically have no contact whatsoever with will have your back during an emergency is terrific, but how many emergencies are you going to experience, really?
Should you wait for an emergency? How about the rest of your life?
How about the big and small things of every day? How about those moments that you would like to share with them and yet they are not there for you now, busy with something or someone else, just because you are not sick, heartbroken or your house is not on fire?
Most of us tend to think that we have plenty of time and that we can keep postponing spending time with our loved ones or with people we would like to get to know better. They are here, they like us, and we are so busy. When we are going to be less busy, then...
How about being part of the life of the people around you on a regular basis and taking care of your connection with them like a gardener would do with a secret and valuable garden that needs time and attention, instead of ghosting them and then saying that you will be their hero, if they should need one at some point?
Even if you mean it, it is not enough.
Tags: Relationship standards, Relationship expectations, Walking the talk, Quality time
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