"You sound like one of those dance teachers in one of those cheesy movies from the Eighties, giving your peep talk in front of lazy and unmotivated students", he says.
And, well... probably he is right.
While talking about dancing, I could go on and on for hours.
Even more, if the topic is dancing & flirting.
[Cheesy dance movies from the Eighties?
Let's go for Flashdance (USA 1983), please!]
Flirting can be fun, and yet so tricky, defined by ambivalence, doubt, possibilities, interpretations, allusions, double meanings, weird clues, hidden innuendo, and ambiguity.
You never know, for sure, what the other is thinking.
Do they like you? Are they serious about flirting or are they just passing time? Do they flirt with everybody or are they at least a little bit into you?
You never know, for sure, what the other is thinking.
Do they like you? Are they serious about flirting or are they just passing time? Do they flirt with everybody or are they at least a little bit into you?
Exciting. And promising. And unknown. And unpredictable. And stressful. And scary.
Dancing? Dancing is a completely different matter, ladies and gents.
Dancing is a good way of shit testing a potential partner in a very accurate way and, if things are right, to increase desire and strengthen the connection. Dancing is the ultimate shit test per se.
[Cheesy dance movies from the Eighties?
Let's go for Dirty Dancing (USA 1987), please!]
Is the dancing partner going to be nice? Will they pay attention to the person in front of them on the dance floor or are they just worried about showing off? How do they move? How confident are they in their own skin, with their own body?
Are you going to like their smell? How does it feel to be so near, to be touched, to be in contact and to look each other in the eyes?
What if you should make a mistake on the dance floor... How are they going to react? Pissed off, amused, with complicity? What if they are the ones making a mistake? Do they possess self-irony, are they going to lose their cool?
[Cheesy dance movies from the Eighties?
Let's go for Footloose (USA 1984), please!]
The questions could have no end. Because dancing is a very fast, very good, very effective tool for choosing a mate. There is no big talk, there is no room for white lies, there are no empty promises. Just two bodies, two people, and their body language. You can't lie on the dance floor. They can't lie on the dance floor.
You have to be real, to be authentic, to be vulnerable. Somehow, you are naked, even if you have your clothes on. (Well, I hope you have them if you are dancing in a public place...)
Flirting, dating and falling in love would be so much easier, if the world would be a huge, open-ended dance floor. With excellent music, of course.
This one is for Jan. And for Colchester.
Tags: Flirting, Singleness, Relationships, Dating, Shit test, Flexibility, Choosing a partner, Dancing
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