Way too often, compromising is considered a bad thing, like if making compromises would automatically mean losing oneself or giving up on something.
Even if compromising can be seen as a sign of betrayal, weakness, and fear, the opposite is quite often true.
Healthy relationships, balanced collaborations, successful partnerships are created one compromise at a time, one mediation at a time, one adjustment at a time.
[The ability of compromising of someone is directly
proportional to their strength and resilience]
Agreeing and compromising can be like dancing an endless dance that acknowledges the needs and desires of everyone involved and finds a way to make the most out of what is available under the present circumstances for all the people involved.
This way, compromising is about building something long-term instead of pursuing short-sighted wins.
Without seeing the other, without perceiving them as an equal, there cannot be a compromise.
Without being aware of what we are ready to give and to lose, there cannot be a compromise either.
Very often, compromising is a way to stay strong, and to move forward.
Like in Aesop's fable The Oak and the Reed and in so many other fairy tales, the tree able to survive the storm is the one that bends to the roaring winds.
Coaching question of the day:
"Where in your life are you willing to compromise?"
"Where in your life are you willing to compromise?"
Tags: Coaching question, Self-coaching, Self-awareness, Self-reflection, Human dynamics, Compromising, The Oak and the Reed
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