Coaching, reloaded - Coaching question of the day #319. - Keeping (or not keeping...) secrets

"Can you keep a secret?", someone may ask. 

And, as far as I know, nobody ever said: "No, you shouldn't tell me anything, I am terrible at it!". Even when they are actually terrible at it.

We could be absolutely unable to keep a secret longer than five minutes, or we could be able to loyally keep over the years the secrets friends and loved ones told us better than they would themselves...

Still, the answer usually goes: "Sure, you can trust me!". 

[There is nothing more annoying (and rewarding at the same time)

than discovering that you take the secrets of your loved ones

more seriously than they actually do]

And I have always wondered why people bother to ask at all.

Since the answer is going to be a positive one, no matter how things actually are, the question seems to be a pretty useless one, to me.

If people need to ask, it means that they should not be talking about the matter in the first place.

But now, just between you and me...

Here you have a question that is for you and for you alone to reply to. Nobody is going to know your honest answer to it, besides you.

That said, the answer can definitely offer you food for thought, and a fun way to get to know yourself better.

Coaching question of the day: 

"On a scale of 0 to 10, how good are you at keeping secrets?"                         

                                                    

Tags: Coaching question, Self-coaching, Self-awareness, Self-reflection, Keeping a secret, Dealing with secrets, Trust in relationships

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