Another year is coming to an end, and a brand new one, full of shiny, sexy, and exciting days to be discovered, lived and filled, will start tomorrow.
What did you see, feel, think, read, experience, try out, listen to, and do this year? What did you learn? How did this year shape, change, and improve your life, day by day?
Even more, what are you willing to take with you, while approaching 2019?
How do you want your 2019 to look like?
[What are you looking forward to feeling, seeing,
experiencing, thinking, learning, reading,
trying out, listening to, and doing in 2019?
Pic: Me, December 2018 © Radoslaw Kosiada]
In order to reply to this question in the best way, it could be useful to think about negotiations.
The pivotal rule of every negotiation (and each human interaction is, per se, at some level, a negotiation) is:
While being involved in the negotiation process, it should be very clear to you under which circumstances you would be ready to walk away from the negotiation itself.
What for? There are many reasons:
- for protecting yourself;
- for respecting your boundaries;
- for sticking to your word;
- for acknowledging your values;
- for going for a different scenario;
- for finding another option;
- for [fill the blanks].
You name it.
[Walk-away points, both personal and professional.
Same same but different?]
If, while needing it, you are able to walk away from a negotiation, you can take part in it from a place of strength, self-awareness, and self-care. You know your worth, your needs, your expectations and you are going to go for them. Even if it means walking away in the case that it could not be possible for your needs and your expectations to be met, or if the negotiation should become harmful or destructive for you.
Both in your personal and professional life, what's your walk-away point? Are they the very same in those arenas of your life, pretty similar o very different? What are your triggers, what's your point of no return? In which scenario? How do you recognize it?
["You are what you do, not what you say you'll do"...
So what are you actually going to do, in 2019?]
The end of the year is the perfect occasion for decluttering, letting go, walking away, saying goodbye to what is not serving you or making you happy. For starting fresh and giving yourself a new beginning.
What do you want to walk away from, and what are you willing to embrace instead, in 2019?
What doesn't belong to your life any longer? What are you ready to build, from now on?
What are you going to do, and how? What for?
Take some time to think about it, and write it down, as you would do while preparing a contract regarding a very specific matter, to be signed by you and other people. Just, this kind of contract is for you only, and it can help you to stay accountable in the next twelve months.
This one is for all of you.
I wish you all the best of luck for the New Year, and lots of fun on top of it!
Tags: Coaching questions, Negotiations, Walk-away point, Self-awareness, Self-care, Quotes, Special contracts, Accountability
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