Just like with many other things in life, asking for a favor is all about the sense of proportion: We should not ask for too many favors, but also understand when it is very important to ask for one and go for it eventually.
The funny thing about favors is that we usually think that we would like people that do us a favor, and yet we tend to like even more people that ask us for a favor.
Strange, but true: We like people that ask us for a favor because helping out someone else lets us feel competent, effective, generous.
It lets us feel good about ourselves and we associate this feeling with the person that asked for the favor and we suddenly feel closer to them.
Still, most of us have a list, on some corner of their mind, with all the favors we would like to ask for and yet usually don't follow up with.
Maybe it would be worth a try to pick a small one from that list and to go for it. The results could be very surprising.
Coaching question of the day:
"Which small favor should you ask someone for?"
The funny thing about favors is that we usually think that we would like people that do us a favor, and yet we tend to like even more people that ask us for a favor.
["Can you do me a favor?" should become for you
a quite natural thing to ask, from now on]
Strange, but true: We like people that ask us for a favor because helping out someone else lets us feel competent, effective, generous.
It lets us feel good about ourselves and we associate this feeling with the person that asked for the favor and we suddenly feel closer to them.
Still, most of us have a list, on some corner of their mind, with all the favors we would like to ask for and yet usually don't follow up with.
Maybe it would be worth a try to pick a small one from that list and to go for it. The results could be very surprising.
Coaching question of the day:
"Which small favor should you ask someone for?"
Tags: Coaching question, Self-coaching, Self-awareness, Self-reflection, Asking for a favor, Reciprocity, Human dynamics
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