We tend to talk (and complain) a lot about the expectations that others (society overall, colleagues, gender roles of any kind, family and friends, people with a similar or different background) have about our actions, our success, our feelings, our loyalty, our looks, our place in the world.
We rarely talk about (and question) our own expectations about ourselves, our lives, our achievements, and pretty much everything else.
We rarely talk about (and question) our own expectations about ourselves, our lives, our achievements, and pretty much everything else.
[Even if other kinds of management get a lot of attention,
expectations management is key in every relationship,
and for sure in the one we have with ourselves]
Without some kind of self-reflection and a healthy reality check once in a while, we risk not only to internalize others' expectations as if they were our own but also to bully ourselves in the process because of some unspoken, unrealistic, and maybe outdated expectation we have about ourselves.
We have regular check-ups about our health, our teeth, our car, our finances, our documents, our insurance coverage...
It could be useful to do just the same about our own expectations, and how good we are at managing them.
Coaching question of the day:
"How good are you at managing your expectations?"
Tags: Coaching question, Self-coaching, Self-awareness, Self-reflection, Expectations management, Dealing with expectations, Emotional intelligence, Identity, Diversity, Reality check
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