Once more, love is the answer.
Like, love is the answer to all questions, apparently.
A couple of weeks ago, the results of all the tracking about physical and emotional well-being performed for over 75 years thanks to Harvard’s Grant and Glueck long-time study have been sum-up and the way Melanie Curtin explains it for Inc. and Fast Company struck a chord with me.
And it could probably be meaningful to you as well:
It doesn’t matter whether you have a huge group of friends and go out every weekend or if you’re in a “perfect” romantic relationship (as if those exist). It’s the quality of the relationships–how much vulnerability and depth exists within them; how safe you feel sharing with one another; the extent to which you can relax and be seen for who you truly are, and truly see another.
[Life extension? Transhumanism? Blue zones?
Supplements? Adaptogenic substances? Biohacking?
All we need is love, says the Harvard study.
Pic: Me, December 2018 © Radoslaw Kosiada]
How would you describe loving someone, and being loved?
I like the fact that the article points out very clearly that it is not about how many relationships and connections you have, but way more about the depth and authenticity of those connections.
We are talking oxytocin against dopamine here, if you want.
With which people do you feel at home?
Which people are able to make you feel seen, welcome, accepted, acknowledged, liked for who you are?
Even when you show your fears, your weaknesses, your soft spots? Even when you are not at your best? Even when you are less than perfect?
["The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return"
says Nat King Cole's song "Nature Boy",
also used in Moulin Rouge! (2001) by Baz Luhrmann.
The Harvard study just provided plenty of scientific evidence for it]
Which people are going to be there for the long haul?
Above all... What are you ready to do for those people and for the connection with them?
In order to find such a connection? In order to cherish it? In order to keep it?
This one is for Roope & Tassilo, that are doing a great job with their company Yolife while aiming to add 15 healthy years to the lives of 1 million people.
And for Jan, that made me smile so many times in the last days.
Tags: Love, Relationships, Mindset, Longevity, Fulfilling live, Connection, Quotes, Well-being, Self-care
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