"You are so nice!" they say, in the same way as they say "You are so healthy!", surprised and a little bit incredulous, as if being nice would be so difficult.
Most of the time, people ask me if I am actually so nice all the time, as if being nice would take more time than being not nice.
However, my favorite ones are the ladies and gents that, without me asking for their opinion, are eager to let me know that "Well, yeah. I prefer to be myself and to be authentic", as if being nice would mean per se pretending to be someone else and being in a shitty mood would be the best thing you can do for getting real.
However, my favorite ones are the ladies and gents that, without me asking for their opinion, are eager to let me know that "Well, yeah. I prefer to be myself and to be authentic", as if being nice would mean per se pretending to be someone else and being in a shitty mood would be the best thing you can do for getting real.
[Do you think that being shitty and grumpy with others
is your gift to humanity, the best way to be real?
Well, thanks a lot for the beautiful present?!]
While going throughout your day, you can either be nice or not nice.
You will still have 24 hours at your disposal each day you are going to live (in this life, at least. If you believe in another life, that's another story and that's good for you, but not relevant for this post).
In one case, you are going to spend 24 hours a day with a person that is tendentiously nice and that, once in a while, could experience a bad day, because we are talking about human beings and not about robots, here.
In the other case, you are going to spend 24 hours a day with a person that is tendentiously not nice and maybe, once in a while, under the right circumstances and with the "right" people, could experience a good hour and maybe even a whole good day.
The person is the same: yourself.
And you are going to spend every single day of your life with that person in any case, no matter what.
[Scott vs. Nega Scott, two sides of the same person,
fight each other in the hilarious final duel from
Scott Pilgrim vs. the World (USA 2010) by Edgar Wright]
With which version of yourself would you prefer to spend your time, if you could choose?
The good thing is that you can actually choose. Every single day.
And then go for it, day after day. And if you should screw up, like the most of us do once in a while, another day is around the corner, and you will get another chance.
External circumstances don't matter. They change all the time, and it is up to you to act instead of reacting.
People around you don't matter. They are not going to be with you all the time every day, you are.
The past and the future don't matter. The past is gone, the future doesn't exist yet. You have only today.
[Which kind of energy do you want to carry with you
throughout your day?
Image credit: ISO Republic]
Every single day, you have a chance to be proactively nice or to let whatever is happening outside of you to determine your mood and your state of mind.
You are the master of your internal environment.
Aubrey Marcus, Own the Day, Own Your Life
To me, being proactively nice is the best option I can go for. For the people around you, and even more for myself.
Tags: Being nice, Proactive attitude, Mindset, Being real, Quotes
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